Top Ten Thanksgiving Break Tips – #8


The upper class families were generous in their shares, when asked what advice they would give the parents of USAFA Class 2021, about the cadets’ first break. The overall theme was to be flexible . . . no two experiences are the same and most expectations should be left behind.

TIP #8

Plans . . . Haven’t We Covered This?

Looking at my notes for this subject of “Plans” I wonder if I even need to do this post.  Haven’t we already seen advice on scheduling time during The First Break?  I think even throughout this strain of tips we have breached the subject.  I guess if this is the first time you have seen The Tips I should forge forward!

Keep them simple . . .

Don’t schedule the four days solid . . .

Ask them what they want to do  . . . and be open for changes . . . they may not really know until they get home . . .

If they opt out of something be okay with it and adjust as needed . . .

Family time is sacred . . . protect it . . . it is okay to let your cadet know that you expect them home for Thanksgiving Day, or dinner, etc. Be open to negotiations.

I think that about covers it.  Except for, perhaps, these . . .

Plan a project for you to go to when your cadet is out visiting others.

Go for a walk

Start the day with quiet time. This helps to greet every adjustment to expectations with a smile knowing that it will all be right in the end.

Create a meaningful mantra to repeat when, unbeknownst even to you, your feelings get nicked. “My cadet loves me, my cadet . . .”  “Christmas break brings more time, Christmas break . . .”

And if all else fails you can reach out to get reassurance and support.

Don’t forget, we are in this together.

Come back tomorrow!  We will have advice on preparing for “Good-bye.”

Prior Tips found here.