The upper class families were generous in their shares, when asked what advice they would give the parents of USAFA Class 2021, about the cadets’ first break. The overall theme was to be flexible . . . no two experiences are the same and most expectations should be left behind.
Quiet – Be Okay With Quiet Times
They are processing a lot . . . adjusting to making moves without being ordered to do so, noticing the difference in experiences their friends are having compared to their own, getting used to the comforts of home again . . .
Provide opportunities to talk without crossing the threshold of prying.
“Don’t pry, but provide opportunities to talk.” ~ A. Dyckman
“I bit my tongue with a million questions especially that first year, but after about a day she unloaded. And didn’t stop talking the rest of the weekend!” ~ J. Swain
“Write down important questions you have so you don’t forget, space them out so they don’t feel bombarded and shut down. Let them tell you things as they come to mind.” ~T. Washer
Allow them time to decompress.
“My DD slept a lot and was a little quiet at first. I think they just have to process being home and how different it is.” ~J. Swain
“Didn’t really get out of the USAFA mindset and relax his first T’giving at home. It was hard that first year trying to figure out where his real peeps/ loyalties/ emotions lay and it was hard seeing him struggle with that. Much better now . . . be patient and let them work thru it.” ~ K. Kulp
Give them quiet, control and space.
“Leave time easy and relaxed.” ~T. Washer
“Sleep, eat, lay on the couch, sleep some more, eat, hang out with friends, eat, REPEAT.” ~S. Cavender
Remember you know your child best . . . proceed with love and understanding.
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